Friday, April 13, 2007

catch 22

to believe it might actually work out this time
to get excited about the prospect of possibly meeting
the one
to anticipate that your prayers will finally be answered
to trust with all your heart that -maybe- the moment has arrived
- is setting yourself up for painful disappointment

but..to expect disappointment
to prepare yourself for the worst
to lower your expectations
to brace yourself in advance for that painful blow
- is setting yourself up for definite failure-by-self-fulfilling-prophecy

feels like a lose-lose situation
..maybe I just need more lipgloss.

15 Comments:

At Saturday, April 14, 2007 4:06:00 PM, Anonymous Tal said...

Hey there p00ksie babe :) it's me!
Missed ya...

Just came by your page, only to find you've been writing all along :)

I liked this post. Short & to the point.

How's your life? Are you happy?
Do you have someone? How's work?

Take care dear.

See ya :)

 
At Saturday, April 14, 2007 9:00:00 PM, Blogger Bas~Melech said...

Hey! Nobody told me you were back! Welcome home :)

Re the post: There's this old saying "Prepare for the worst and hope for the best." I think that works. Notice it doesn't say what to expect -- perhaps it is actually possible to have no expectations, though I've never managed that...

 
At Saturday, April 14, 2007 9:59:00 PM, Blogger socialworker/frustrated mom said...

It's not easy but try to be somewhere in between or like bas melech said.

 
At Sunday, April 15, 2007 1:12:00 AM, Blogger Maven said...

i love the little breslover books that the tzedoka collectors hand out - one of them is about finding a shidduch, it's very inspirational.

i don't know the answer to your quandary - i guess i'll agree with the "somewhere in the middle" answer.(lipgloss helps)

p.s. do you and your date morph into picassos?

 
At Sunday, April 15, 2007 1:31:00 AM, Blogger chana said...

i dont think it has to be lose-lose..
no expectations is always a great way to not be disappointed. knowing that this date is gonna take u closer to yours - whether he's The One or one of the names the malachim called out in shamayim before you were born (that you need to meet before you'll find your bashert), helps know ur in the right direction without expecting it to be Him. and being relaxed about it lets you enjoy yourself even if he's not the right guy.
at least, i find that attitude makes it a lot easier.
...good luck :)

 
At Sunday, April 15, 2007 3:59:00 AM, Blogger The Dreamer said...

gosh, i feel that way sometimes.
but i'm always hoping that one day, i'll put on that happy face nad hope for the best and it will work out...
hey, you never know!

 
At Sunday, April 15, 2007 9:05:00 PM, Anonymous Jean Luc said...

Je n'y crois pas à ces conneries

 
At Sunday, April 15, 2007 9:06:00 PM, Anonymous Jeff said...

Je m'en fiche complètement!

 
At Sunday, April 15, 2007 9:51:00 PM, Blogger anonym00kie said...

NOT-jeff
jeff cares, you dont.. dont use his name in vain

 
At Monday, April 16, 2007 12:29:00 PM, Anonymous guy said...

wrong you are
up to you to decide about which
aureviour

 
At Wednesday, April 18, 2007 8:25:00 AM, Blogger ~ Sarah ~ said...

it's a challenge!

 
At Wednesday, April 18, 2007 10:38:00 AM, Blogger Scraps said...

Oysh...I know what you mean. Life's rough like that sometimes. :(

Hatzlacha rabba.

 
At Thursday, April 19, 2007 2:21:00 PM, Blogger bloglurker said...

Sigh
It's tough.
Hatzlacha rabba!

 
At Friday, April 20, 2007 10:09:00 AM, Blogger anonym00kie said...

Tal.. email me, poopihead!

bas melech,
swfm,
maven,
I know that saying but honestly I have no idea how the heck you actually implement it.. if I did, I wouldn’t have posted this :)

and maven.. sometimes my date start out as picassos.. or worse dali's :)

chana, that is good advice.. but sometimes that self destructive part of my mind takes over and would rather stick on more lipgloss than actually reframe my way of thinking..

the dreamer..
that’s the problem.. whenever I want to feel hopeless I always just think.. but what if THIS is the time.. wouldn’t it be silly to give up right before its about to happen..

~ Sarah ~,
Scraps,
bloglurker,
thanks for the encouragement, but I didn’t mean for it to come out so whiny..it was more of a pre-date observation..

 
At Friday, April 20, 2007 3:42:00 PM, Blogger nuch a chosid said...

More lip gloss wouldn't make it or break it dear.

what you may need just a little bit more Tehilim-tefilla.
And strengthen your Emunnah-Bitochen in Hahsem the big boss!

I wish you from the deepest of my heart, Im Yirzeh hashem B'Korev!!

 

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